Fostering Positive Body Image in a World of Unrealistic Expectations

Between the curated perfection of social media, peer comparisons, and a culture obsessed with appearance, the messages young people receive can feel relentless: You’re not good enough. It’s no surprise that many teens struggle to feel confident in their own skin. But there’s hope. As parents, teachers, and mentors, we have the power to rewrite that narrative. How can we help young people build positive body image in a world full of filters and unattainable ideals? Let’s dive in.

What is body image?

Body image is how someone perceives their body and how they think others see it. A healthy body image means feeling comfortable and confident in your own skin.

For teenagers, whose brains are still developing and who are grappling with identity and self-worth, this perception can be heavily influenced by external factors like social media, peer pressure, and cultural standards.

Signs your teen might be struggling with body image

• Preoccupation with appearance: Constantly checking mirrors, seeking reassurance, or criticising themselves.

• Changes in eating or exercise habits: Avoiding meals, overexercising, or developing unhealthy food restrictions.

• Social withdrawal: Avoiding events due to concerns about their appearance.

• Low self-esteem: Negative self-talk, mood swings, or reluctance to try new things.

If you notice these signs, it’s essential to approach the topic with care and empathy.

Tips for supporting teens

1. Model healthy body positivity

Your behaviour sets the tone for how teens view their bodies. Avoid self-criticism or talking negatively about your own appearance — or the appearance of others.

2. Shift the focus from appearance to abilities

On that note; give compliments that aren’t just about looks. Highlight achievements, hobbies, sense of style, and personal qualities. Otherwise, encourage teens to value their bodies for their functionality and power.

3. Curate their digital space

Talk openly about the unrealistic nature of social media, and suggest a "digital detox" if needed to reduce exposure to triggering content. Encourage them to follow accounts that promote body diversity and self-acceptance.

4. Celebrate diversity

Help teens recognise and appreciate different body shapes, sizes, and abilities. Remind them that beauty isn’t one-size-fits-all and that diversity is what makes us unique.

5. Provide access to reliable resources

Equip teens with tools to critically analyse media messages. Schools and parents can introduce programs that teach social media literacy and body positivity.

6. Encourage open communication

Create a safe space for teens to express their insecurities without fear of judgment. Validate their feelings, and remind them that it’s okay to have bad days — they don’t define their worth.

“You are more than your reflection. Your worth lies in your kindness, talents, and unique perspective. The world needs you exactly as you are.”

Sometimes, body image struggles can lead to deeper issues, such as eating disorders, anxiety, or depression. If your teen is exhibiting signs of distress that interfere with their daily life, consult a mental health professional specialising in adolescent issues.

By creating space for self-acceptance and providing the tools to navigate societal pressures, we can empower teens to embrace their beautiful selves. Let’s commit to building a future where body positivity is the norm, not the exception. Together, we can help the next generation grow up knowing they are enough. Find out how.